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It Takes a Village

 They say it takes a village to raise a child, but I would argue that it takes a village to be a human these days. What we don't talk about is the grief that comes when the village is not who you thought (or society tells us) it should be. As the holidays are fast approaching my Husband and I have been reflecting on the various levels of estrangement we have with both of our families. Some is intentional full on no contact, some connections just got caught up in life, and some have major boundaries to protect our peace. 

I have been no contact with one of my parents for close to twenty years. It was the healthiest choice my young teen self had ever made (and probably the first time I truly honored ME) and it's not a choice that makes me sad anymore. There are other members of our families that losing/going lower contact with that has been much harder because the circumstances are less clear. I know it brings me more peace, but I miss them. 

In all of our reflection though one thing has been made abundantly clear. WE. ARE. BLESSED. 

We have had friends jump in and offer childcare when we couldn't take days off from work. We have had friends jump in and answer all my late night frantic texts when the puppy was really struggling. We have had coaches check in on our kiddo when he was struggling or in his head about his plays. We had another coach jump in and help find a tutor because he cares about our kiddo's success off the field as much as on. We have had neighbors provide puppy care and drop off cookies just because. Other neighbors will shovel our walk. We have neighbors that bring me jars so I can continue canning. We have friends that check in on us or are willing to wait in line at the store for the release of an item. We have family that will answer any home improvement or vehicle maintenance call and guide us through. They have loaned tools, skills, books, words of encouragement, and so much more. Our family, neighbors, friends, and sports communities have gone above and beyond for us. 

We have our village. It might look different than we hoped, but it's better than we could have ever imagined.


 

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